The Sweet (but oh-so-fleeting) Nature of Summer Love By Gil Schwartz
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 Summer love, the kind that grows between Memorial Day and Labor Day, is the most carefree kind of romance we ever experience.
While the season's in full bloom, it seems to hold the possibility of lasting forever. Once in a while, in fact, a summer love does last after Labor Day. More often, however, it succumbs to its own carefree nature, withering with the cold demands of the real world-school and work, for example. This is lost on my friend Emily, however, who is suffering over Kenny-who Iives halfway across the country.
She met him on vacation and had "a wonderful time." Yet today, after weeks of tearfulletters, Kenny still hasn't written, still hasn't called, still hasn't done a thing, in fact, to keep the relationship going. His silence speaks louder than a hundred telegrams. It's over, that's all. And Emily is more than surprised. "Didn't it mean anything to him?" she cries. "There must be something I can do!"
No, there isn't. I'd be Iying if I said guys like Kenny are unusual.I even know what he's thinking: Summer's over, and the relationship was nice while it lasted, but it's time to move on.
Yeah, Kenny has a short emotional memory-something that afflicts boys and girls. I, too, have' spent several Septembers trying unsuccessfully to resuscitate a dead relationship. And what I've learned is this: Even good romances end; those that grow in a hothouse environment, like summer vacation, are especialIy short-Iived. While nothing should prevent you from giving your heart, it pays to learn when it's time to take it back and ready it for the next relationship.
"I'm new at school, and there are several guys I like, who seem to like me too. How can I straighten my feelings?"
A: While this may sound like a "fun" problem, indecision can be miserable. Start dating casually, and get to know as many guys as you can just as friends. Do your best not to get too involved with any of them, even if they appear really interested. Since you're new at school, you want to avoid getting in with any small bunch and Iimiting your friendships. As you date and have fun with a number of people and groups, the people you really wan tto spend time with will stand out. If you don't push things (and just let them happen), the answers to your dilemma will surface naturally.
Source: Seventeen Magazine
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