Is the light of your life overshadowed by the smartphone light? Make sure you’re not alone… According to the Chicago-based research company Dscout, a normal person touches his phone 2,617 times a day. But to become a phone addict, you need another bakery. This new plague of the age, so the nomophobic ones touching their phones on average 5,000 times a day. The phone is now even closer than the closest we’ve ever touched?
Phone addicts can’t be connected to anyone
No mobile phobia is a combination of the words nomophobia in the simple sense of the phone addiction. I mean the fear of being deprived of the cell phone somehow. People who can’t leave the phone, can’t get away from it, and even hesitate to even charge it are always in this group. In our country, an interesting data emerges in the thesis studies conducted in this field. There is a significant correlation between indifferent, fearful and obsessive attachment in individuals with increased frequency of telephone use. In other words, nomophobia affects our relationship styles and even dramatically changes them.
Ghost relationships to increase
Phone addiction does not only lead to isolation or inconsistent relationships. His indifference to his surroundings leads him to lose his altitude. This is an epidemic that has often been mentioned in recent years:
Phubbing
Sociotelism is the concept of English, which is formed by the combination of phone and snubbing. I mean, all the attention on the phone when you’re in contact with someone else. The indifference of the person using the phone turns the people around him into a ghost. Therefore, one side finds itself struggling in a struggle for existence.
In fact, sociotelism works in a sense as a subset of nomophobia. In other words, not only the phone, all the possibilities of the phone offers a separate or even multiple dependencies to develop a very convenient. The Internet, social media, games and applications increase the strength of addiction even more like the columns that keep the same building alive. Therefore, it is not possible to give up unless the building collapses for any reason.
In fact, the sharpest line where telephone addiction differs from other types of addiction is the psychological dimension of the necessity rather than the physiological one. There are two interesting comments about this. The first is that American psychologist Nicholas Kardaras likens the phone to digital cocaine. Stating that the frontal lobes of our brain, which are executive functions, have shrunk in recent years, Kardaras states that decision-making and impulse control are increasingly difficult, that we are more prone to aggressive behaviors and that someone who looks at the screen for more than 10 hours a week is completely the same as a cocaine addict. The other view comes from Wilhelm Hoffmann, a professor at the Ruhr University, one of Germany’s largest universities. The urge to control social media is now stronger than the urge to sex.
is the phone knocking us out?
The fact that the mobile phone has the power to zoom in on the closest to the farthest, is a great paradox. Most research shows that the phone creates an emotional distance between the couples, increasing the level of relationship dissatisfaction at the subconscious level, even if it does not appear, and leads the parties to depression. Even the individual feels defeated by the phone addict, exposed to indifference and disrespectful. He is running out of competition to compare his own presence to the world he has reached via telephone.
Experts confirm that we have more empathy when smartphones are removed. Because we can’t look at other people while we’re on the phone, we can’t read facial expressions. It’s not just about seeing. We do not hear the nuances of the tones, we do not notice the clues of body language. In short, not a subject, not even a life that we can not even the audience flowing through us, people are lost between our hands.
According to the professor of psychology Barbara Fredrickson, intimacy in relationships takes place in micro-moments. A momentary eye contact, a simple sentence, a physical gesture will keep small, where relationships can be hanged even in the event of danger. The relations deprived of these moments fade with time, the stutterers, the language between them disappears and the phone ends with the feeling of worthlessness experienced by the preferred person. There are two digital debris left.
It’s time to beat the smartphone
A study in the United States shows that 30% of men and 37% of women walk by phone. In the same study, the rate of couples walking hand in hand was only 18%.
So being in an organic relationship can make it easier to get rid of the phone. This and a few practical tips that may be useful in the following items.
1) Remove all technological devices from the bedrooms.
2) Even if digital devices are used for educational purposes, the brain does not distinguish content and creates addiction. Therefore, limit your use to your own size.
3) Avoid video games and practices that encourage them.
4) Turn off all notifications. What’s app groups and open applications to come to continuous notification as messages separate in order of priority. Try to keep in touch with a smaller group. Do not drain your energy away. You also don’t have to read every incoming message.
5) Exercise is good for depression. Depressed individuals connect more to the phone.
6) Monotask: The brain can lift only one thing at a time. Therefore, while working, do not listen to music while sleeping. Whatever you’re doing, focus on one thing.
7) Leave the phone at least three hours before bedtime. The chemicals secreted by the display in the brain are stimulating and may take 1-3 hours before the brain becomes passive again before falling asleep.
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