There are five stages of love, but most people are stuck in the third.
This is one of the most common statements we hear from the mouth of someone who has just gone through the separation process: “Maybe we are not created for each other. Iz We even told ourselves. But most of the people around you thought you were the perfect couple, right? Maybe you thought like that for a while. Over time, we are confused by the fact that we have nothing left of true love.
One of the famous psychologists, Jed Diamond, concluded in his 40 years of clinical research that the majority of people actually found the true love of their lives. The problem is that people cannot complete the five phases of love together and often get stuck in the third phase. Let’s see what these phases are:
1- Falling in love
Falling in love is the stage where you find yourself living in a cloud of happiness hormones. It is when you build all your desires and hopes on your partner. Your partner quickly becomes the ideal person for you; there is no flaw in your eyes. You always believe that you can fulfill every wish, and that every word comes out of your mouth. You believe so much in the power of true love that no skeptical voice can make you stop and think more cautiously.
2- Being a couple
At this stage, love becomes stronger, and the success of appointments leaves its place to live together over time. You get to know each other better and your presence begins to affect every aspect of your partner’s life. This is the time of unity and enjoyment. At some point, perhaps months or years later, this period may also witness the presence of children strengthening the bond between you. You feel desirable and protected. You certainly believe that you have found the right person for you, that your relationship is destiny.
3- Disappointment
This is the stage where your hopes begin to fall into the water. You get the impression that your emotions will disappear in a way that you will never come back one day. Your partner is now completely predictable for you; their behavior touches your nerves in many ways. You might want to walk away a bit and even tell yourself that he’s not the right person for you. In the next step, you want to think that in an energetic relationship, torturing yourself and your partner doesn’t make sense.
4- Creating true, long-lasting love
If you close your eyes and do your best despite your reluctance, you can go beyond the third phase and move on to the next. Your mind is now free from the bondage of illusions created by your partner in the early stages. The person in front of you is no longer the person you originally imagined and created; is a real one. He accepts his flaws – more importantly – you can understand them. It is time to heal and move on to the next stage.
5- To use the power of two people to change the world
Now that you have learned to overcome your disagreements and can find a deep, strong, long-term bond, you will come to an even more emancipatory conclusion – the conclusion that the two of you have the power to change things in this world. You don’t live life just to live; you live together for a greater purpose. You may be working together, writing together or creating something – it can be anything. Completing each of the previous stages, 100 percent is absolutely anything you can do as a whole with the person you would call “the man / woman of my life.”
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