The feeling of insecurity is increasing day by day. Ego wars are taking place because of a sense of insecurity and lack of empathy that leads individuals to a prejudiced and controlling attitude towards relationships. Experts made important recommendations with the help of an expert when it was necessary to find out when the feeling of insecurity first occurred.
As human beings, as social beings, when we list the criteria that should be in all our relationships, we generally see a sense of trust in the first three. So we want to trust; our business, our spouse, our family, our social environment. Why do we need that feeling? Why our search?
Whether it’s a month or a 10-year period, the biggest problem in relationships is ‘insecurity’. This continues to increase day by day. Trust contains many concepts. These; honesty, openness, consistency, loyalty, closeness, commitment, predictability. “How much do you trust your partner?” Many people find it difficult to answer. But the question is, “How much do you trust yourself?” When asked as ego automatically comes into the circuit and the answer “I’m very confident” is given.
Insecurity causes prejudice and control
In a relationship, it’s easier to say “I love you” than “I trust you.” Those who have a problem of trust should first review the meanings that they have placed on this concept. Everyone has different experiences in the past. Trust can mean loyalty to one another, while keeping one’s promise for one person. In childhood, a sense of insecurity that cannot be obtained from the parents or the result of a past experience can put us in a protection shield against others. What we need to do here is to be aware of where this emotion comes from. This feeling of insecurity in our subconscious puts us in a behavior that prejudices relationships and controls everything.
When ego wars begin
So, what is more intense mistrust than in the past? We consume spirituality and relationships as well as material, and we give up easily. Instead of wasting labor, we pursue alternative options in social media and virtual environments. However, the short-term relationships and frustrations we experience in these environments draw our energy down after a while. Our feeling of insecurity is increasing day by day. We think that we can express ourselves better in virtual environment. But that makes us a big mistake. We impose ourselves on the other side as if we were another human being. This situation makes us most unhappy. We’re not so open to each other anymore. We think that our phone or computer is the only reality. Instead of mutual empathy, we go into ego wars.
Lack of self esteem creates insecurity
We need to look at whether the feeling of insecurity is ours or as a precaution against external discourse. If this feeling belongs to us, the following are the things to be done; We need to get in touch with ourselves and try to understand when this emotion first came into being (even in the womb). It is impossible for us to see the confidence outside of us.
If this feeling belongs to us, because there will be insecurity in the energy we emit, we attract people and events that will make us experience this feeling again and again. The first question is: ‘Do I trust myself?’ In my new job, in my new relationship … If there is any doubt about this answer, what can I do to increase my self-confidence? First you need to solve it.
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