We often hear the words ‘opposite poles attract each other’ or ‘marriage makes man happier’. These words are spoken like a cliché everywhere, in any environment and are accepted as the exact truth of the relations. But behind these stereotypes of relationships lies surprising facts. Many studies on relationships reveal interesting results:
There’s no such thing as ‘I like this type’
Matchmaking sites are one of the most popular methods used to find friends. However, the idea that one will join the numerous profiles here can be intimidating.
However, research shows that our perception of beauty may be variable, not constant. Because how attractive the faces seen on these sites can be affected from the previous face. This means that your profile is one of the most impressive photos of other users.
It may also be advantageous for people who use such sites to quickly browse through these profiles. Psychologists say faces create ‘glancing effect’. In other words, faces can be attracted to people in a short time.
Researchers explain this situation with a tendency to look at the faces we see a second time more carefully than the more beautiful faces that we may have missed while passing through these sites.
It is possible to get lost among thousands of profiles on matchmaking sites, but being close to beautiful faces can increase your chances.
Opposite poles don’t always attract one another
It is known that there are some benefits of having certain features in common with your partner. So the thesis that opposites attract each other is not entirely true. Some of these features are popular features that everyone can ask for in a partner, regardless of your own personality, such as being harmonious or not being nervous.
However, sometimes the best features of a partner may vary depending on the individual’s character. For example, people who are anxious to abandon, prone to over-attachment may experience a more satisfactory relationship with a partner with similar characteristics. In addition, similarity in terms of characteristics such as getting up early or going to bed late will be beneficial for the relationship.
But sometimes it can be unattractive to see the same reflection of your character in another person. For example, research shows that if the sense of compassion and responsibility is higher in one spouse than in the other, this feature will balance the relationship.
How much does marriage change?
Marriage makes you happier, but… If you have a harmonious relationship, you can consider marriage. What does this mean for your personality and happiness?
Research shows that marriage leads to lasting changes in a person’s personality traits. A four-year survey of 15,000 Germans revealed that after marriage, there was a decrease in openness to new experiences and extrovert characteristics.
A positive aspect of marriage is the development of self-control and forgiveness. They are essential for long-term relationships.
People say they’re happier when they get married – at least for a while. After marriage, life satisfaction increases between couples. But after a few years it is returning to the old level of satisfaction.
When a long-term relationship ends, personality changes are observed in couples. For example, studies with divorced middle-aged people show that women become more extroverted and open to new experiences after separation from their husbands.
Men, on the other hand, cannot handle separation easily. It is observed that after divorce, men are generally more nervous, but more responsible.
In addition, both women and men after the divorce is said to be reduced reliability.
In fact, this is a two-way interaction; While differences change personality, personality traits determine how they will be affected by separation.
It is seen that more extroverted people are newly married in a shorter time, and nervous, neurotic people tend to enter into short-term relationships after divorce.
Is it a different romantic future?
Some do not see monogamy as the only option. Relationships involving more than two people tend to increase. Instead of cheating in a monogamous relationship, in polygamous relationships this happens with openness and consent.
Research shows that in polygamous relationships, compared to monogamy, the parties have a strong friendship outside their love life. Safe sex practice is more common in such relationships.
However, those who do not have such a relationship should not think that they have missed a lot of fun. People who turn to polygamous relationships are perhaps already more open to relationships, including friendship.
Research shows that people in this relationship are almost at the same level as monogamous couples in terms of psychological comfort and relationship quality.
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