Always in a complain mood? Follow these 4 steps

How to stop complaining all the time with 4 no-nonsense strategies.

We are constantly in a complain mood. Intense programs, bad weather, traffic etc. As we complain, we increase our stress and we cannot see the positivity around us. When we focus on the negatives and combine this with the complaint, our mood and perspective are getting more and more negative. The more we complain, the more problems we perceive. Although we know that having a positive mindset is healthy, not knowing how to stop complaining wears us down. So how do we leave our habit of complaining?

Manage your expectations

The biggest reason for complaining is that our expectations are not met. When we feel uncomfortable and disappointed, we express it through complaints.

To learn how to stop complaining, we need to re-express our expectation to avoid being disappointed in an incident we live in. Let’s explain with an example:

You have a meeting. You arrived at the meeting place on time and you are waiting at the reception. Half an hour has passed, you’re still waiting. You started to feel frustrating and worthless. Why are you still waiting, even though you are trying to get there in time?

You get angry and stand up to complain. This nerve causes the meeting to start with a negative tone and makes it difficult for you to follow a positive path. And for the rest of the day, this bad mood won’t keep you.

Let’s think again:

Stop for a minute and think. Could there be a good reason to wait? Maybe there was an emergency that needed to be addressed, and this unfortunately affected your appointment.

The situations that we have to wait are very many. This can be in a queue before a meeting, before an appointment, or while shopping.
Why not try to get used to the ailments instead of letting the situation annoy you and harm your perspective for the rest of the day?

Always keep books in your bag to make the best use of the time spent on such situations. Or handle the emails you need to answer. Search for loved ones that you should look for but cannot spare time for. Use these times to do things that need to be done but that you cannot spare time for. You know how satisfying it is to add a tick to your to-do list!

Having some insight to prepare for conditions beyond our control gives us comfort. If it takes time to commute to work / school, you can download a few great podcasts to make your journey enjoyable. Instead of complaining about traffic, you can make the trip home enjoyable. Every second counts, and using them wisely is in our hands!

Take time for gratitude

In a busy day, there are many things we can express our gratitude for. Intense programs and pressure on us mean that we will never stop to accept them.

If you have a habit of complaining constantly, taking the time to stop and think is a powerful tool to be thankful for.

Write something you are grateful for every day. A message from a loved one, a sunny day or a nice lunch.

When you start focusing on the positive aspects of your day, you don’t have time to think about what would normally cause you to complain.

There is a lot to be grateful for; It is never a bad day to stop and smell the flowers!

Avoid mutual dissatisfaction as a social tool

We all try to find a common ground in social interactions. This is a great way to start a conversation, break the ice and learn more about someone.

The easiest way to find a common point is to find something that neither side likes. How many interviews have you made, starting with complaining about the weather or how bad the traffic is today? I’m sure it’s pretty much.

A great way to stop the complaint is to build relationships where negatives are always a low priority. If you’re going somewhere to meet new people, keep in mind a few chatting topics and make sure none of them complain! E.g: