He said “wait” and he went, I didn’t wait, he didn’t come.
Something like death happened, but no one died.
Some relationships cannot end, they hang in the air. It cannot end because it cannot be lived properly. As if the pause key was pressed in an inappropriate and bad time. They catch the eye in the crowd. And the scene suddenly stops, the screen gradually turns dark. The audience does not think that the movie is over, does not want to think because it is one of the greatest cognitive needs of man: to understand and to make sense.
So what happened now? Is the film over? Is the relationship over? The subject will probably arrive somewhere on the stage in the next scene. What is this dark? Why did music enter? Yo, yoo cannot be ending, it cannot be like this. I wish this relationship did not end.
The director, screenwriter, or anyone, can tell us something! Give it a second chance, did we commit a crime and this movie ended as pat? We follow the well-behaved well, even if an advertisement enters an hour, we will not make any noise. Why did these articles begin to flow? It can’t be, it seems to be finished… Is it the final that will remain like this? Well, have they left now or will the scene be opened the next day, or 3 years later?
Casting and crew names also appeared, there is no turning back anymore. But Aim loved Jade very deeply and with heart feelings. Jade was breathing with her too? what happened now? Did they leave happily? Will they walk and hug each other soon, and will they leave everything behind? Or will they be friends? Do not do this to us, hey director, shame!
What came to my mind, stop, sometimes a final scene comes out after the names, the director may have planned it. It is so, my dear, it doesn’t end like this anyway. “Wait, do not go out, dear spectators!” I call out to the rising audience. Why are they dating? How did they settle in this puzzler final? How easy is everybody leaving the scene? Have you accepted or understood what happened? Or don’t you care about this uncertainty? What should I do? Should I stay or go?
Look, somebody else is sitting in the front row, some are looking at the screen and some are looking at people like me. It’s like the movie won’t make a final if everyone goes. The story of Aim and Jade that will hang in the air like this. Imperishable. I don’t move from where I sit. Wait, don’t go and stay like that, so it shouldn’t stay, how could it be?
Then a man with glasses and an inflatable coat sitting in front of him suddenly jumps on stage, calling out to the projection room behind the seats:
– Hey director, this can’t stay like this! Separate them or combine them and make them happy. Can’t you leave this to us, can you hear me ?! “Is the director there with all his might?” he calls.
Everyone is staying. No snaps. I guess somebody will restart the movement and the group will continue to appear. But I’m wrong. Although the first shields from the audience have reached the exit door, and even a couple have left, all the rest stands and looks at the man. And time stands still. A little later, a middle-aged woman, with short, blond hair, in a track suit, she is also encouraged:
– How are we going to guess the rest? Is there such a movie? he calls out to the director who is not there.
I am comfortable, I am comfortable. I say oh be, it just means I didn’t feel like this. Besides, yes, someone should do something. He should call the director, bring us a statement. We paid so much. In the meantime, the end of the scrolling articles on the screen is coming, thanks to some state institutions. Now I’m convinced that the movie is over. But will it end like this? I have an objection.
From the right wing of the hall, a young man with a backpack, thick glasses and a timid look speaks of it, as if we all sound with an unexpected tone. He expresses our distress one by one as if he wrote it to the petition.
– We have some needs, Mr. Director (now everyone talks openly to the director, as if calling to God).
– Will Aim and Jade notice each other on the final stage?
– If they do, will they run and hug each other?
– Will they be able to tell each other that they still love each other?
– Will Aim make no effort to convince Jade that he’s not actually cheating on him?
Will Jade not tell you how she gave up her dream to be with her?
– Will they hug and cry and kiss, or will they shake hands and go their own way?
And the 7th person I would like to refund my film fee if I don’t get these essential answers, or I will sue you.
A young woman takes the floor:
– For what reason can you open it?
Man:
– It left us in indecision and ambiguity, isn’t that enough? We’re in the dark in the limbo. We had hoped for the couple’s happiness, it broke it, are they not psychological violence, miss? Despite the coldness of winter in this dark hall, there is little hope, a little excitement and the desire to meet our need for our lives. It was better if he killed someone!
In the crowd, the voices are gradually rising, those who deserve the man start to applaud, the outgoing couple has taken the director back, the director is brought to the stage, the director is hung on the ceiling in the middle of the stage and the movie theater is set on fire.
I opened my eyes with a deep breath, the movie is over and I missed the end, what happened? Hopefully it was not uncertain.
Frustration and banana peel
The level of people tolerating uncertainty is low. It is much lower than most people. As an ego development level, we can count the development of tolerance to uncertainty as an adult sign. Unpredictable situations, sudden reactions, vague stimuli, make people nervous. Uncertainty has to keep the person in an alarm against danger. (There may be a danger from anywhere, so let me keep the alarm on). Since this will burn a lot of energy, too much load is placed on the system and increases the stress load. We don’t want this.
In the interpersonal relations, the person in front of us will react to any situation we are on, we wonder, we want to know. Even though we know, we need to be sure that there will not be such reactions, at least that of large scale disappointments. Just like a baby wants to know if his mother will be there when he needs it, the need to know that the breast will come when he is hungry, or expects him to respond when he looks at his face and laughs. It is like a pioneering teacher in close relationships where babies will develop their relationships with their mothers for life, especially in their first months and first years. His experiences with the “other” there will leave a decisive trace in the relations with the later “close others” in various forms.
I hung on a rope
Every relationship ends.
But some relationships cannot end, they hang in the air. It cannot end because it cannot be lived properly. It seems as if the pause key was pressed in an inappropriate and bad time. They are not finished to live, that is, they stand there just like a ghost with their unlivability and the potential potential of the days to live. Like the zombies are neither dead nor dead. These relationships sometimes come down to the earth from time to time, are heated, refreshed, repackaged, parts that do not work and rotten sections are carefully sorted and presented to the couple. It is also brewed, its possible risks have been revised and missed, requested, with a known and safe side.
But sometimes such frozen relationships hang in the air forever. The words to be said were not spoken enough, the bodies to be wrapped were not wrapped enough, or they seemed to capsize with the rush of a haste, or the lines were finished or the words were lined up in the throat. Who knows. Maybe it is, maybe it is there.
I will not suggest, some of you will take this hanging package when the time comes, you open it, and some of you put your reasons to never open it again, next to it, in the air. In any case, it is better to talk about what is going on, rather than silence.
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