“People are as happy as their expectations. Formula: Zero expectation, eternal happiness.” – Robin Sharma
In many ways, we can often close ourselves to life and the flow of life. We think we are less vulnerable when we close ourselves to life and pull into our shell, maybe it acts like a defense mechanism. We choose to resist instead of flowing in what life brings. We can all have this defense. Because we can get hurt when we open ourselves up.
If we get into the flow, we can jump to a different place than originally planned, and yes, there is always this risk. In order not to take this risk, we do not allow others to enter. We don’t break the routine. We prefer our present situation to what life can offer us. We would like to stay in a comfortable, comfortable, safe area which is called “comfort zone’ in English. This is a choice in itself, of course, but why can’t we get stuck in the same place when there is no repetition of ten seconds in life?
So, what does it mean to be open, to move with the flow? That means we can accept life without judging. That means that we judge others less, criticize them, accept them as they are, and remember that there may be positive features of life. It is to realize that life is not just shaped by our expectations.
Judging seems natural to most of us, but by doing so we miss the good things we can discover in these people and what they can teach us. The same is true when we judge everything around us, that is, life. If we judge life blindly, it reflects itself in the way we judge us. For example, the phrase ber life sucks is one of the most common and closed judgments. Most of the time we repeat these judgments unconsciously and this is becoming the truth. If the judiciary has begun to automate, then we should get off the autopilot and become more conscious.
Pause when you notice that you are judging others or yourself. How would you feel when you could leave your expectations of everyone around you and the world, accept people as they are, and see them as they are? Maybe you’il be more relaxed. When you release the judgments and expectations that are shaped by your thoughts, you also leave control.
Comfort comes automatically when your mind accepts that you don’t have to control everything, all that’s happening, people. Accepting means we won’t change anything? No, it just means that when things don’t go the way we want, we need to feel more and more confident about ourselves and life, instead of getting angry, feeling anger, eating ourselves and suffering, instead of suffering.
We are constantly striving to control others, ourselves, the world around us. Goals, planning, measuring / weighing our jobs, expectations and more… So in short, we try to control many things. Control is an illusion every time we exaggerate. It is also a way of closing ourselves to life. Because as much as we want, we cannot control the life and the future, the course of events can change at any moment. What happens if we give up this control? The possibilities begin to unfold.
It is also necessary to know how to surrender to recharge our batteries, to feel good and to enjoy the gifts of life. Once we are aware of this, we can change our lives and create space for our dreams.
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