Methods of setting boundaries. Being able to communicate is the first step. After setting clear and realistic boundaries, conveying it to the other person in an appropriate language, conveying it in a polite and respectful language and being understandable is the strongest form of communication. Expressing intention is another important part of setting boundaries. As humans, it is our most natural right to express our needs and expectations clearly and without being offensive when we encounter a suggestion that is not needed or in a situation that we perceive as an intervention in our lives.
Expanding options is another method of boundary protection. If communication is progressing about a subject we do not want, we can offer it to a daily and ordinary subject as an option and ask, “Would it be okay for you if we talked about this issue right now?” Expressing it as follows automatically gives the impression of “I am not ready for you to approach this distance, I expect understanding.”
Choosing an alternative option will help you to accept the part of the situation that you can accept, if not the whole situation. Another important way that we all know but perhaps find it very difficult to implement is to say “no”. Remember that politely refusing is your most human right, even if it may be difficult at times. It is our primary right to greet it with thanks and reject it politely. However, if you encounter insistence, be determined and continue to take a clear stance. Changing your mind in the face of too much insistence will mean nothing other than the impression that I can stretch my limits.
In addition to all these methods, it is very important to set boundaries and to protect and adopt the boundaries. There will be no point in not being able to maintain the established boundaries. It requires effort at first, but once you start protecting your own space, freedom of thought and movement, experiencing how good you feel in every sense becomes one of the most enjoyable habits. Days full of psychological strength, where you protect your own boundaries and respect the boundaries of others
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