This week I wanted to see what the stress, anxiety and stubbornness of the children is not. Because behavioral coaching, let’s say parents’ common complaint subject or search. Does the child have stress? The searches that started and continued.
Stress requires looking at what it is… Stress is the decision that keeps us alive, most harm is a state of emotion. When it is managed that protects us from dangers, it is transformed into motivation factor and secreted according to the mood of emotion. a journey that goes up… No need to enter long definitions.
But how children define and feel this issue reflects their lives… The problem is here. Feeling safe is also nourished by family communication and lifestyle. As we grow older, the anxiety of being perfect, the level of “ability to do”, the effort to express themselves and the desires of getting their desires drag our “learned form” into a complete chaos.
If the child has learned to obtain as he cries, it is not even possible to be HAPPY because of what he has achieved. Families, we do whatever they want, but HAPPY. I can’t be a good mother. Should the child “do whatever he wants” to be done? The basic question…
The requests should have a limit and a time to meet. He should know to wait. he should know that his patience should develop as well. As with all emotions, you need to consider whatever emotion your child has reflected and fed from you, without overlooking the mutual-fed emotions. Therefore, you should start looking for a remedy by looking at yourself, whichever emotion forces you.
Why stressful, why anxious, stubborn, and why unhappy? If the children of the mothers, who are trying to finish every rushing job quickly, like their mothers, we either have high anxiety for undefined fuss, or if it is suitable as a character, we can face the child who spreads himself literally. he finds the cure. Or I will be able to adapt to the speed of the life in the mother / house with her own pace.
Stress does not suit children, let the child pass on the swing appropriate for its nature, it will already grow and run … But build a life in a defined, age-appropriate house, play real domesticism for yourself, let it feel your home and life in peace.
Anxiety is fed by the feeling of uncertainty. We are afraid and anxious about what we do not know, a language of life that will be defined will definitely be relaxing. Because, since the child does not have a problem with the stubborn dose, he can always go up to the most challenging dose.
If you do not want to have a stubborn child, be comfortable and be comfortable. While so much effort is to make the child happy, after all, the helpless parent and unhappy child table is dominant and the remedy begins to be sought. Everything starts for the family.
With the words of Elalem, the ability to take care of yourself neutrally and externally makes you a nuclear family with an interlocked inside. What does it mean to be happy, what does it mean to make the child HAPPY.
For the true HAPPINESS of the child, each of them is AUTHORITY, that is, the basis of trust, in the eyes of the child by identity and age. With the feeling that I will be a friend and a parent to my child, “AUTHORITY” turns into a journey to behavioral dominance of being weak and undefined, then becoming an AUTORITARY with anger.
This time, the child is confused and anxious. Because he can’t understand what suddenly happened, why… Yes, the key to everything is in your hands. It is in your hands to create a wave of excitement in order to be together at least on the weekends with a healthy, happy and peaceful game, and to look forward to shared happy moments without losing your negative emotions. Your children are like a blank white paper. You write, you read.
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