February 14 is celebrated worldwide as Valentine’s Day. This special day is a romantic getaway for some, the rush to buy a special gift for some, a great opportunity for peace or marriage proposal for some. Well, what does February 14 mean for married couples?
“February 14 may be an opportunity to acknowledge your spouse with all its positive and negative aspects, and perhaps to prepare that romantic environment that you have neglected for some time,” says psychologists.
We all want to be loved, approved and protected. We also expect this request to be consistently real. Marriage is an increased status that is supported by the society. When the person marries, he declares that he is growing up and is an independent individual. There is also a plus to having children. However, marriage is not simple enough to be reduced to a signature. There are some key points for a happy marriage.
People fall in love, dream and marry. As time progresses, both men and women go through a series of changes. Needs, wishes and expectations of both parties can change and differ. Balances in marriage are constantly disrupted. Being able to adapt to the new situation without being stuck in the problem makes the relationship more solid and healthy. The important thing is to be able to restructure these ordinary shakes. We can list some common problems and solution suggestions that can make marriages difficult:
Express your love
Often spouses do not speak openly and clearly to each other about their needs, wishes and expectations. The way of thinking, “If my wife really loves me, she already knows what I want and need to be happy” only increases the emotional distance between the spouses. Remember, no one is capable of reading mind. Speaking on the basis of open, sincere and honest communication with each other, couples take a big step to save the relationship from monotony and problems. Never stop expressing your love to your partner with words and behavior. Loving and knowing that they are loved is a priority need for everyone.
Do not try to change your spouse
Another important point that may cause problems is to try to change the other person. We do not settle for this, but we sincerely expect our spouse to enjoy this change. It is unrealistic to think that his wife can change her inadequacies, shortcomings and mistakes by constantly voicing. The problems arise from trying to close these differences, not from differences.
The important thing is to accept the differences and go to small plays in the behavior. Difficulties can be overcome more easily if you focus on what your spouse does not add to your relationship, but what it adds. Pay close attention to the style you use in discussions that may occur from time to time in every relationship. So, it is important how you say more than what you say.
Feel free to take step
Marriage is a scale. Sometimes a woman can sometimes be more dominant or more giving in a male relationship. The questioning, “Who is doing more in this marriage?” Is to ignore the ever-changing balances for different reasons. In some cases, it is necessary for the spouses to step into each other or to withdraw a little, in order to balance the marriage. Because marriage is a team game.
February 14 may be an opportunity to accept your spouse with all his positive and negative aspects, to share your expectations from him and your relationship openly and honestly, and perhaps to prepare that romantic environment that you have neglected for some time. Remember, relationships can be repaired and stripped of monotony.
Happy Valentine’s Day.
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