Habits you can reform – and ones you can’t

Habits you can reform — and ones you can’t

If he plays music too loudly, let it go. But you could rehab other unsavory behaviors.

For the most part, men treat manners like women treat football teams — we don’t know much about them and we’re not pressed to learn. But if your guy’s less than couth, it doesn’t mean you’re stuck with an ape. Men can change — just not too much at once. If your guy’s social skills need a minor touch-up, here’s how to handle it. But if his offensive behavior always puts you in a tight situation, trade him in before he takes you down with him.

Forgive and forget

These types of blunders are more about personal taste than bad manners, so try to shrug them off instead of nagging to get your way:

You don’t like how he dresses.
He plays music too loudly in the car.
He eats too quickly/noisily/unhealthily.
He doesn’t turn down the TV when you get a phone call.
You disagree on how much to tip.

There are ways to change his behavior, like offering him a trade of something he wants in exchange for minding his manners. “My boyfriend refused to tip more than 15 percent,” says Mary Stevens from Oak Bluffs, MA. “So we made a pact. If I think the tip should be bigger, he puts in extra cash, and I have to give him a back rub.” But bargaining isn’t necessary. Sure, you could struggle to change the idiosyncrasies that make your man an individual, but he may resent you for it later.

So unless his tweaks cause major conflicts (like if they affect your values, relationships with others, or well-being), let them ride. “When you have to do favors to make a point, you’re just making the best out of being bribed,” says advice columnist Harriette Cole, co-host of “Pulse” on XM Satellite Radio’s Take Five channel and author of Choosing Truth: Living an Authentic Life. “You can live with a 15 percent tip.”

Fix him up by toning him down

By any definition, certain behaviors are impolite, so if your guy’s an offender, you can help him become appropriate. Some specific examples of when you can indeed jump in:

He curses too much.
His table manners are suspect.
He makes jokes about your relationship to your friends.
He makes no effort not to control his bodily sounds in public.

These types of behaviors happen because he doesn’t know any better. In situations like these it’s not what you say, but how you say it. Be honest. If your man is a keeper, he won’t object to a little refining. “Give him a gentle course in manners so he can flow with you wherever you go,” says Cole. Some specifics: Don’t embarrass him by calling him out in front of people. Wait for a moment when you are alone together or can at least take him aside someplace where others can’t see or hear you. It’s not what you say but how you say it.

Be honest but use a gentle, non-patronizing tone. A line that never fails is, “Darling, please listen to me for a second. I want to help you see something you may not see. I think you may not have realized how it came across tonight when you were (cursing about your boss/joking about our love life/burping a lot). I think it gave people the wrong impression about you…” Now that you’ve told him what went wrong, he can do damage control — or you two can figure out how to fix it together. If you think he owes someone an apology, don’t be afraid to tell him so. “If he loves you, he should have noticed you don’t talk or behave a certain way, and if you’re meant to be, he’ll take the chance to redeem himself,” promises Cole.


Forget trying to make a silk purse out of this sow’s ear. Certain behaviors are indicative of deeper problems that won’t be solved by a simple conversation:

He’s rude to people he doesn’t know.
He always has to be right.
He’s immature for his age.
He belittles you in front of people.
He’s jealous of your friendships.

This bum from Bumsville is the reason fathers are overprotective. It may seem romantic to date a bad boy who needs fixin’, but this character is broke beyond repair. “I dated a guy who didn’t like my friends, especially the guys,” says Sarah Phillips, 27 from San Francisco, CA. “He couldn’t give me a concrete reason why he didn’t like them, so I dumped him rather than giving up my friends.”

It’s tempting to stick with a bad boy, but don’t delude yourself, he’s not going to change. And possessive or disrespectful behaviors are often the first signs that a guy will become emotionally and even physically abusive. Bottom line: You’re too good for him. “It doesn’t matter how cute — or generous — he is, if he doesn’t have a clue about how to talk to you with respect, he doesn’t deserve a second chance,” says Cole. “He is the way he is. Jump ship before you’re locked in.”

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Is Justin Bieber taking over your Facebook profile?

Is Justin Bieber taking over your Facebook profile?

Users who install the Bieberflirting application get an unwelcome surprise.

The 16-year-old pop culture sensation, who rose to stardom riding the wave of YouTube, Twitter and other forms of social media, is also the unwilling poster child of many malicious scams that are circulating all over the Internet.

The latest, a rogue Facebook app called Bieberflirting (which has since been removed from the site), generated status updates with a link claiming to show off Bieber’s fledgling flirting skills. Rather than seeing the pint-sized Moptop work on his game with the girls, however, the link sent unsuspecting fans to a page requesting permission to access their profiles.

Users who installed Bieberflirting lost at least partial control of their Facebook accounts as the nasty application spread around to their friends and contacts.

“You’ve just given it access to grab your personal information and to post messages on your wall,” explained Graham Cluley, a technology consultant for data security firm Sophos, in a blog post explaining how to remove the app.

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Drew Barrymore steps out in $25 dress

Drew Barrymore steps out in $25 dress

Talk about mixing high and low fashion! What did the adorable Drew Barrymore choose to wear to host the Nylon magazine / Express party this week in Los Angeles?

This gorgeous $25 metallic-printed 3/4-sleeve shift dress from a thrift store paired with $760 Yves Saint Laurent “Tribute” pumps, of course! I love the 1960’s vibe she’s got going on; the psychedelic print, the cut, and the pumped-up voluminous feel of her hair is a total win.

It’s so refreshing to see someone mix it up and have fun with fashion. Just last month she made an appearance in an Oscar de la Renta runway dress–a far cry, financially, from an Austin, TX thrift-store find.

Don’t you love it when vintage Drew — the irreverent, quirky, girl power praising, throw-a-daisy-in-her-hair Drew that we all idolized in the 90’s–steps out on the red carpet?

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Common fitness myths to ignore

Common fitness myths to ignore

Thinking that all calories are created equal could be holding you back from your health goals. To be fit, you must stop letting myths like these you remember.

1. Walking is not as effective as the race.

Of course, you burn about twice as many calories as running for 30 minutes walking 30 minutes. But if a runner and a walker to cover the same distance, they burn about the same number of calories. So if you’re willing to take the “slow road, you’ll probably lose much weight. In fact, studies have shown that the duration of your exercise is more important than the effort you exert.

2. Exercise increases hunger.

It is a common misconception: If you burn hundreds of calories during a workout, you’ll end up eating more. But research shows that exercise has no effect on food a person needs, with the exception of endurance athletes who exercise for two hours or more per day. In fact, research shows that exercise often stifles hunger during and after training.

3. It does not matter where your calories come from.

Calories are not created equal. Firstly, certain foods (especially proteins) take more energy to chew, digest, metabolize and store than others. Others (such as fats and carbohydrates) require fewer calories to digest and store. Second, different types of foods have different effects on your blood sugar. Refined carbohydrates (think white bread or cookies and fruit drinks) to increase levels of blood sugar dramatically, which promotes fat storage, weight gain, and hunger. fibrous foods such as apples, as well as proteins, raise blood sugar less, making it more friendly to your waistline. Finally, foods that contain lots of water, like vegetables and soup, tend to fill their bellies with fewer calories, so you’ll stop eating their way before you stop eating foods that are calorie dense.

4. Diet alone is sufficient for sustained weight loss.

You will lose weight in the short term by reducing considerably the calories, but experts say exercise is what keeps the books for good. Exercise burns calories, of course. It also builds muscle, which takes up less space than fat. Muscle tissue also requires more calories to support that fat tissue does. In other words, the more muscle tissue you have, the more calories you burn at rest. In fact, some studies suggest that in the long run, if you had the choice always eating less or exercising more than ever, the exercise would be best for weight loss.

5. There is no better time for exercise.

If you’re simply walking to regain their health or take off some weight, it does not matter when you do it as long as you do. But if you’re an athlete looking for a quality coaching, choose the afternoon when body temperature is highest. The muscles are warm reaction time is fast, and the force is at its peak. If you push harder, so you burn more calories.

Related LinK: Fitness in Made in Atlantis

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John Lennon: In My Life Lyrics

John Lennon: In My Life Lyrics

Life is what happens to you while you’re busy with other plans. John Lennon

“In My Life” is a song by the Beatles released on the 1965 album Rubber Soul, written mainly by John Lennon and credited to Lennon–McCartney. The song originated with Lennon, and while Paul McCartney contributed to the final version, he and Lennon later disagreed over the extent of his contributions (specifically the melody).

George Martin, who produced the recording, contributed the instrumental bridge. It is ranked 23rd on Rolling Stone’s “The 500 Greatest Songs of All Time” as well as fifth on their list of the Beatles’ 100 Greatest Songs. The song placed second on CBC’s 50 Tracks. Mojo magazine named it the best song of all time in 2000.

John Lennon – In My Life Lyrics

There are places I’ll remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some forever, not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places had their moments
With lovers and friends, I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life, I’ve loved them all

But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life, I’ll love you more

Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life, I’ll love you more

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Schmucks second to Inception at boxoffice

Schmucks second to Inception at boxoffice

Warner Bros.’ 3D comedy sequel “Cats & Dogs: The Revenge of Kitty Galore” was out-clawed by two wide-opening rivals, but the studio’s leggy pedigree “Inception” finished at the top of the domestic boxoffice during the weekend.

Christopher Nolan-directed “Inception” collected $27.5 million to grab first place for a third straight frame and push cumulative coin for the Leonardo DiCaprio starrer to $193.3 million through its first 17 days. “Kitty” — the weekend’s priciest new release — proved surprisingly toothless, settling for a fifth place debut with just $12.5 million.

Paramount’s Jay Roach-helmed yuck-fest “Dinner for Schmucks” opened solidly with $23.3 million in second place. And Universal’s Zac Efron-toplined drama “Charlie St. Cloud” — a romantic fantasy for teens and tweens — bowed roughly as expected with $12.1 million in sixth place.

Two pics hitting their sophomore sessions posted relatively modest weekend-over-weekend declines: Sony’s action thriller “Salt,” starring Angelina Jolie, fell 47% from its opening tally to fetch $19.3 million in third place with a $70.8 million cume; Fox’s family comedy “Ramona and Beezus” slid from the top rankings on a 53% decline, to $3.7 million and a $6.3 million cume.

Focus Features’ dramatic comedy “The Kids Are All Right” expanded wide in its fourth frame — to 847 theaters from a previous 201 — and registered $3.5 million, or a sturdy $4,090 per venue. Boasting a $9.6 million cume, “Kids” will add about 100 more locations Friday.

Collectively, the weekend top 10 rung up $128 million, or 20% more than top performers in a comparable frame last year, Rentrak said.

Among limited bows this session, Sony Pictures Classics unspooled the period dramedy “Get Low” — starring Robert Duvall, Bill Murray, Sissy Spacek and Lucas Black — in two New York locations and two in L.A. to gross $90,954, or an auspicious $22,739 per site.

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Finding a job on Twitter

Finding a job on Twitter

What if a little bird could help you with your job search? Well, it may not be the bluebird of happiness, but social networking and microblogging site Twitter can be one tweet job search tool.

Say What? As a career-minded woman youre always who embraces the latest technology trends such as Twitter, so you’ll definitely want to spend time at the site with an eye toward how it can lead to employment opportunities.

If you’re new to Twitter, you’ll first want to familiarize yourself with the basics of the site. Twitter, like other social networks, allows you to create a profile. Unlike other social networks, the profile isn’t in-depth.

In fact, that’s the beauty of Twitter: Everything is abbreviated. At Twitter, you’re limited to what you can say. Posts, known as tweets, must be 140 characters or less. You can, however, link to other sites, and many people use the site in this way.

The concept of Twitter is to post short messages, while getting people to follow what you have to say. You gain followers and you follow others. Okay, it all sounds fascinating, but what does any of this have to do with looking for a job? Plenty.

Think of Twitter as a platform, a soapbox, if you will, from which you can broadcast your message. In fact, the image here of a chick on a microphone is a good metaphor. And Twitter really can help you get the word out.

That word might be that you’re an expert in your field. By providing regular commentary about your industry or profession, you can establish yourself as a person in the know, and you will gain interested followers.

Your followers are now contacts, who have other contacts. If you tweet that you’re involved in a job search, particularly once you’ve established yourself as a legitimate professional, your contacts will likely offer assistance in the form of information and/or job leads.

Your tweets about a job search can also include links to your personal website or your LinkedIn profile. This, in turn, will provide people with easy access to your background. With a tweet and link, you can let others know how accomplished you are.

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Tarkan’s brand new album: “Adimi Kalbine Yaz”

Tarkan's brand new album: "Adimi Kalbine Yaz"

Turkish pop megastar Tarkan has said his brand new studio album of new material “Adimi Kalbine Yaz” (Write Down My Name into Your Heart) released on July 29th, 2010

Speaking to reporters at the Istanbul Atatürk Airport before leaving for Moscow for a special concert over the weekend, Tarkan said: “My upcoming album [will be] very enjoyable, very sweet, very warm. It will be released on July 29th for my fans.”

Tracklist of the album: Sevdanın Son Vuruşu, Acımayacak, İşim Olmaz, Kayıp, Öp, Adımı Kalbine Yaz, Sen Çoktan Gitmişsin, Usta-Çırak, Acımayacak Gurcell Club Mix, Adımı Kalbine Yaz Ozinga Club Mix, Sevdanın Son Vuruş Suat Ateşdağlı Mix, Öp Gurcell Club Mix, Sevdanın Son Vuruşu Kivanch K Mix.

Related Link: Tarkan Store

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‘Salt’ can’t topple ‘Inception’

'Salt' can't topple 'Inception'

Angelina Jolie’s thriller can’t wrest Leonardo DiCaprio’s film from the top of the box office.

Leonardo DiCaprio’s “Inception” has won a battle of superstar action thrillers over Angelina Jolie’s “Salt” at the weekend box office. “Inception” remained the No. 1 movie for the second-straight weekend with $43.5 million, according to studio estimates Sunday. The Warner Bros. thriller featuring DiCaprio as leader of a team that sneaks into people’s dreams raised its 10-day total to $143.7 million.

Sony’s spy caper “Salt” debuted a solid No. 2 with $36.5 million. The movie stars Jolie as a CIA operative who goes rogue after she’s accused of being a Russian sleeper agent.

Coming in at No. 3 with $24.1 million was Steve Carell’s family hit “Despicable Me.” The animated comedy raised its domestic total to $161.7 million.

In a rare convergence of fresh ideas, the top three movies all were original stories, not sequels or adaptations of comic books, best-sellers, video games or other pre-existing material.

“Typically in summer, all we’re seeing are rehashes and sequels and reboots, whatever you want to call them,” said Paul Dergarabedian, box-office analyst for Hollywood.com. “To have original stories as the top-three films is a lesson to studios that maybe audiences are open to more originality in the summer and to perhaps not play it so safe, even though that goes against the grain of every fiber in every studio executive’s being.”

The weekend’s other new wide release, 20th Century Fox’s family comedy “Ramona and Beezus,” took in $8 million to finish at No. 6. The movie is based on Beverly Cleary’s children’s books about a teenage girl and her accident-prone little sister.

“Inception” hung in strongly in its second weekend, its total down just 31 percent from its $62.8 million opening. During the busy summer, top hits often drop 50 percent or more in the second weekend and rarely repeat as the No. 1 movie.

The film will quickly shoot past the $200 million mark at the domestic box office and has a good shot at topping $300 million, said Dan Fellman, head of distribution at Warner Bros.

Repeat business is accounting for a good share of “Inception” revenues as fans return to delve deeper into the labyrinthine story concocted by writer-director Christopher Nolan (“The Dark Knight”).

“There’s so much on the screen. It’s so original and so smart that it raises questions that I think can be answered in different ways if you see the movie multiple times,” Fellman said.

While young males usually make up the bulk of the action audience, women and older crowds were the core fans of Jolie’s “Salt.” Females accounted for 53 percent of viewers, while 59 percent of the audience was older than 25, according to Sony.

“What the movie really has going for it just a kick-ass performance by Angelina Jolie,” said Rory Bruer, head of distribution for Sony. “It just speaks well to the viability of our film for many weeks to come that you have such an incredible hold for ‘Inception,’ and we’re still able to open our picture. We coexisted really nicely.”

Overall revenues rose for the fourth-straight weekend as Hollywood continued to recover from a box-office swoon earlier in the summer. Receipts totaled $164 million, up 11 percent from the same weekend last year, when “G-Force” was No. 1 with $31.7 million.

1. “Inception,” $43.5 million.
2. “Salt,” $36.5 million.
3. “Despicable Me,” $24.1 million.
4. “The Sorcerer’s Apprentice,” $9.7 million.
5. “Toy Story 3,” $9 million.
6. “Ramona and Beezus,” $8 million.
7. “Grown Ups,” $7.6 million.
8. “The Twilight Saga: Eclipse,” $7 million.
9. “The Last Airbender,” $4.2 million.
10. “Predators,” $2.9 million.

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