Surprise marriage counseling advice
The most important factor in a happy relationship might not be what you think, an expert says.
If you knew these things, you wouldn’t need a marriage counselor, would you? This insider info comes from psychologist Karen Sherman and from psychotherapist Wendy Allen, Ph.D., author of How to Survive the Crisis of an Affair.
• Sixty-nine percent of all arguments between you and your partner will never be resolved. So don’t try so hard.
• A couple that doesn’t fight is in trouble.
• Having a “good enough” marriage is the most couples can expect and is actually quite an accomplishment.
• Letting go is sometimes better than discussing everything to death.
• Respect, not sex or money, is the most important factor in a happy marriage.
• There are marital breaches worse than an affair.
• A therapist cannot teach, train, or guide you to “be happy.” That is not a reasonable outcome to expect from therapy.