Surprise marriage counseling advice

Surprise marriage counseling advice

The most important factor in a happy relationship might not be what you think, an expert says.

If you knew these things, you wouldn’t need a marriage counselor, would you? This insider info comes from psychologist Karen Sherman and from psychotherapist Wendy Allen, Ph.D., author of How to Survive the Crisis of an Affair.

• Sixty-nine percent of all arguments between you and your partner will never be resolved. So don’t try so hard.

• A couple that doesn’t fight is in trouble.

• Having a “good enough” marriage is the most couples can expect and is actually quite an accomplishment.

• Letting go is sometimes better than discussing everything to death.

• Respect, not sex or money, is the most important factor in a happy marriage.

• There are marital breaches worse than an affair.

• A therapist cannot teach, train, or guide you to “be happy.” That is not a reasonable outcome to expect from therapy.

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