Look for your next great love in unexpected places, suggests a counselor.
We’ve all heard stories about people who lock eyes in a crowded room, and I know they’ll marry them. They are soul mates, right? Maybe. But this is not the only way to meet them, and it certainly is not always instant love. Discard preconceived notions about soul mates, and learn what the experts say. It may surprise you.
Soul mates are matches made in heaven. According to Yale Chaplain Rabbi James Ponet, traditional (Judeo-Christian) ideas about soulmates are summarized in the 2nd century history:
A wealthy Roman matron said a rabbinical sage, “Since your Creator God created the universe in seven days, what’s he done since?” The Sage said: “It makes couples.” The Roman woman said, “I can do it!” She proceeded to order one hundred slaves to be paired off and sent to a large house. After one night, the place is in ruins, the couple fought and degenerated into chaos. In defeat and shame, she goes back to the Sage and said, “Oh, this is no small thing your God.”
And so it is common to believe that marriages are made in heaven. In Hebrew the word is B’shert – roughly translated as “beloved” and is where the basic idea of the origin of soul mates “The One” ..
Soul mates are not a one shot. Do not panic. You do not miss meeting your soul mate when you skipped going to the party last weekend. Soul mates find you if you are open to them. Besides, you do not have a great love – you have many potential great loves. According to New York minister and psycho-spiritual counselor, Susan Lemak, soul mates are profound soul connections in your life.
When you’re with one, stop looking, so you’re not aware of potential mates other soul around you. If you consider how difficult it is to find The One, the reality is that it is difficult for you to choose. A soulmate is someone who reflects or matches your energy and your life path. A soulmate is someone whose power and potential are complementary to yours. And you will find them in unexpected places. Lemak adds: “You know that great person sitting near you at work? He makes you laugh, but could be 10 pounds overweight? Maybe not the coolest person – but dig a little deeper. You can find your soul mate there. ”
Soul mates are on the job, not to play. The word “soul” opens a huge can of karma. Although light dating and relationships are all fun and playfulness, soul mates are all deep emotional support, trust and faith. When you choose to go further with someone, you expose yourself – you become emotionally vulnerable. Susan Strong, San Mateo-based astrologer jokes and metaphysical counselor, “Sometimes our soul mates become our cross to bear. You marry someone who is your soul mate and, over time, you realize that you are connected not only through chemistry, but because you are there to help each other. ”
Most guys do not believe in soul mates, whatever the bachelor said. Strong also considers the notion of soul mates for something more feminine. “Men are not looking for soul mates and they really think about meeting their soulmate. Of course a man can be in a happy, committed, connected relationship, but it will not necessarily tell his friends he was with his soul mate. “Women are more aware of a soul connection because they are more introspective in this way. Women need to feel a deeper connection with a man. This link is it the soul – but no men have simply not defined.
Soul mates are not necessarily permanent. As the end of a fairy tale, we are often inclined to believe that a soulmate is our “happily ever after.” How old were you when he realized that fairy tales do not come true? Soul mates are certainly the prince and princess of the modern novel. Yet what happens if your romance goes awry – the soul mate turns out to be an incompatibility? Of course, you’re out of luck. You move on, heal, and open up to the next soul mate. If you look at the traditional idea of soul mates, your beloved, you’ll realize that a higher force may be more of a love in store for you. To love someone and be loved is a deeply spiritual state.